I just spent the week-end with two great friends, women I have known for 30 years. We have been there for each other through high school, college, boyfriends, husbands (two
each, but only one at a time!), kids (five in total), jobs, broader family drama, kid drama – funny stories, sad stories, uplifting stories – protecting secrets, sharing tips, and loving our friendship.
We don’t live close to each other and we don’t get together often, but when we do it is terrific, comfortable, fulfilling, energetic, thought-provoking, and just plain fun. I come away from our annual “no husbands, no kids, no topic is off-limits” visit feeling filled up. I know I can say anything, ask anything, and be quiet at any point during the week-end. I can offer advice, tease them, support them, and they will do the same for me.
It is important to have people in your life who really know you. People who will call you out when you aren’t being true to yourself, let you tell the same story more than once, listen as you veer off topic and maybe never get back to the point, remind you of stupid mistakes you made and great accomplishments you achieved, know and accept your peccadilloes, and remember tidbits about your life that contributed to the person you are today.
It’s important to have people in your life who really care about you. People who share in your happiness and your sorrow, worry when you are dealing with anything difficult, offer advice but don’t feel slighted if you don’t take it, call and email and visit when they want to and not because they have to, and truly want all the choices you make (the good ones and the suspect ones) to have positive results for your life in the end.
If you are lucky enough to have great friends who fit both categories – really know you AND care about you – you are truly blessed. I am blessed, and fortunate, and thankful for my two great friends today.