Last night we had dinner with my mother-in-law, sister-in-law, and her husband. I call him my brother-in-law, but I know some people say he’s not really because he and I have no family tie other than being the “out laws” married into the family.
Anyway, favourite brother-in-law and I were talking and he said unexpectantly “you are so lucky”. I wasn’t sure what I was lucky about since that didn’t fit into the conversation we were having in any way so I asked.
He talked about how he had been working for the same company his whole life and that I have had the opportunity to change companies and have new experiences. He then reflected that I am at that great moment again when I get to do a job search and make a decision about the next role.
He has been working for GM and has had a great career there. He moved up quickly, is good at his job, and well-respected. He worked hard, took his jobs seriously, is loyal to the company and his teams, made good money, supported his family through all their phases of life, and will retire soon with no financial worries. (okay, by nature he will probably always worry but he and sister-in-law will be okay)
He is not unhappy about how his career played out, just reflecting on the difference between his career and mine. And kind enough to state that to me.
And you know what? After the conversation I did feel lucky. How many people have someone like this brother-in-law to put things in perspective?
Now you see why he gets called favourite.