Please read, ponder, and comment!
Big One has the opportunity to go on an educational trip with her school next year. The trip is 7 days in China and 2 days in Hong Kong. There will be 18-24 kids and 2-3 teachers. The trip is with EF Educational Tours.
I am having trouble deciding if I should agree to this. Big One suggested I ask my blog friends what they think. She said I had to “be nice” and not try to sway the comments with all of my opinions. I think I also need to audit and make sure she isn’t anonymously adding comments and pretending they are from the blog-o-sphere.
She will be 17 at the time of the trip, most often makes good decisions, is a straight A student, has a job and is mostly responsible, spends time talking to me about minor parts of her day as well as important aspects of her life, has promised to connect with me every day while on the trip through the internet, and wants me to say she is awesome. She has also agreed to pay half the amount for the trip.
She is not a saint. She rolls her eyes at me a lot, only does chores because she has to, is self-centered and self-absorbed many days, and has made a few bad decisions. (big ones, but not life altering) She says I have to remember those were mere moments in her life, not even chapters if I was writing about her life. (her words) She is sassy at times, can destroy her clean room and my clean house in a matter of hours, and believes having someone do her laundry, make her meals, and drive her everywhere is a given in life.
I say these things not to tarnish her reputation with blog parents, but to show a balanced picture of this Big One.
The trip would be fabulous. I get that. It would be educational, interesting, fun, and life altering for her. (and for me) I have no doubt of the positive aspects of letting her go.
I have three concerns:
- If she goes on this trip, she will never be my baby again.
- If something goes wrong and she needs me, it would be days before I could get to her.
- She will be far away from me, in time and distance, and could lose her mind and make bad decisions.
In fairness to both sides of the argument, she says only #2 is a valid concern. That is a teenager’s view of the world. I am sure blog readers who are parents will agree with me on #1 and #3.
I know she is blessed to have this opportunity in front of her. I know I am blessed to have a child willing to discuss this in detail and then leave me alone to take in the information, ponder it, and decide. When I told her I needed to think for a few days and if she kept talking about it and asking what I was thinking I would be irritated, she said okay and has left me alone.
PLEASE COMMENT and give me your perspective. I am 50/50 on this decision. I know it is a big one for her and for me. This is not a vote, but I do value the perspective of parents who have been there – either as the child on a trip, or the parent of a child who went on a trip and benefited from it, wished they had gone on a trip, or went and wished they had not.