Little One had his birthday Monday and boys that age do “birthday beats” where they punch your arm once for each year. Something a mom can not understand, but he seemed okay with it. He did say two of the boys took it a bit too far and his arm was very tender and he had trouble doing all his martial arts moves that night. We talked, he seemed fine, and I chalked it up to a stupid teen-age boy tradition that we are now done with for the year.
Today I got a call from the school. The two boys mentioned above decided to carry on the punching today. Fortunately…
- they did it in class
- Little One yelled at them to cut it out
- the teacher took it seriously
- the boys are being dealt with
- the school has a “no bullying” policy
- I was home when the school called
- I was able to bring Little One home for lunch so he could just hang for 30 minutes
- he knows he has a family he can tell anything to
My heart is heavy because he had to deal with something so stupid. And I can’t know how it feels to be a teen-age boy. I know my husband will talk to him man-to-man and they will get to make up scenarios where my son uses his martial arts and beats those kids to a pulp. And I also know that he won’t actually do anything unless he is put in a position where he needs to. (not just because he wants to)
As I drove him back after lunch, I told him it was hard for a mom to understand. That I “got it” when Big One talked about how girls are mean, but it was in a different way. Girls saying they don’t like your outfit, or excluding you from a social outing, or talking behind your back instead of punching you in person.
He looked at me and said “yeah, I’m glad I don’t have to deal with that”.
My heart is heavy so his won’t need to be.